This is a question to all the mothers out there…what kind of tough love are you doing to make your child/children grow? I know that growth does not always mean comfortable and easy.

If your kid misses you like crazy to the point of “does not make sense”, will you encourage such behavior because it feels good to be missed by somebody, that it feels good to be needed? Do you feel guilty if you do not give in?

I hope you don’t because it is required for someone who truly love someone to go beyond what is easy and comfortable. It is required of those who truly love someone, be it a mother to a kid, a friend to a friend, a sibling to a sibling, a husband to a wife and all other forms of love – to enable those who they love to grow and be the best that they can be.

Tough love is seen in all parts of nature. The mother eagle showing less and less to her eaglet as it grows, allowing the baby eagle to learn to fly on its own and feed on its own. Growth is also never comfortable. Look at all the butterflies who undergo a painful process before becoming so beautiful like it is now.

What about you? Have you ever truly loved? Or did you love, that kind that hinders?